Have you ever stopped to think about why you feel the way you do about money?
Why you hesitate before raising a price on your offer… (that you haven’t raised since 2017…)
Why you feel guilty spending money on yourself… (that massage you know the knot on your back really, really needs.)
Why you make it, only to watch it disappear just as fast..?
It didn’t start with you.
It started with how money was treated in your home.
Because long before we ever made a dime, we were absorbing… watching… listening…
Picking up the unspoken rules about how our parents and grandparents told us about what’s okay and what’s not okay when it came to wealth.
And that programming?
It still runs in the background of your business today.
If money was stressful growing up, you probably feel guilty about having it now.
Did you grow up hearing things like:
→ “We can’t afford that.”
→ “Money doesn’t grow on trees.”
→ “Rich people are greedy/selfish/lucky.”
1. If money was always a point of contention in your home, it makes total sense why having it now feels… weird.
Because when you’ve spent years associating money with lack, stress, or survival…
When you (currently) make money without struggling…
Or when you start having “more than enough” instead of just scraping by…
Having extra can feel wrong.
Like you’re taking more than your share.
Like you’re becoming one of “those people.”
Like you should be grateful for what you have and not ask for more.
You’ll find ways to sabotage wealth every time it starts to build.
You spend it all.
You underprice your work.
You feel like you don’t actually need as much, so why charge more?
But what if money wasn’t meant to be stressful?
What if having it actually gave you the power to change things?
To help your next generation?
To create a legacy or a movement?
Think about that…
2. If money was scarce growing up… You probably feel shame around it now.
If money was rare, limited, or constantly out of reach growing up, you learned one thing early on:
Money = worth.
→ The kids with nice clothes, big houses, and new backpacks were “better.”
→ The families that went on vacations were “successful.”
→ The ones who didn’t have those things? Well, they must have done something wrong.
So as an adult, money isn’t just money.
It became a measuring stick to prove you’re “good enough.”
A way to feel like you’ve finally “made it.”
And if you’re not making as much as you think you should be?
It doesn’t just feel frustrating. It feels embarrassing.
Like you’re failing.
And that you should have figured it out by now.
And sometimes you think that if people knew how much you were actually making… they’d judge you.
So you don’t talk about money.
You avoid looking at your bank account.
You downplay your success (even when things are going well!) because deep down, it never feels like enough.
But here’s the truth: Money isn’t proof of anything.
It doesn’t define you.
And it sure as heck doesn’t determine how “smart” or “good” or “successful” you are.
The second you stop tying yourself to your self worth?
You’ll stop feeling like it has control over you.
3. If money was unpredictable growing up… Then you probably feel unsafe around it now.
Some people grew up knowing exactly what to expect with money.
Maybe there wasn’t a lot of it… but at least it was stable.
But if money was inconsistent, if some months were good and some months were terrifying, then you learned a glaring life-lesson:
Never get too comfortable.
So now?
Even when money is flowing…
Even when you have clients, sales, and a growing business…
There’s this nagging thought:
“What if it all disappears?”
Which means you either:
→ Work yourself to exhaustion, thinking you have to keep going or everything will fall apart.
→ Spend money fast, because if it’s not there, you don’t have to fear losing it.
→ Avoid celebrating wins, because you don’t want to jinx it.
Because if money was never stable, you learned not to trust it.
But here’s what I need you to know: Money CAN be predictable.
It can feel safe.
It can be something that stays, rather than something that comes and goes.
But it starts with how you treat it.
Listen…
I don’t care how much money you make.
If you don’t fix the relationship you have with it, you’ll always feel like you’re having to chase it.
Like it’s controlling you, instead of the other way around.
And no amount of strategy or mindset work will fix it until you’re willing to rewrite the money story you inherited.
So no more telling yourself you HAVE TO struggle.
No more telling yourself that you HAVE TO prove yourself.
And absolutely no more saying that you HAVE TO earn your right to get more.
Because once you let go of those icky stories?
That’s when money will stop feeling hard and start flowing in. 🙂
P.S. I’d love to hear what resonated with you.
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